When I had my second child, I found that my life as a Lawyer Mom was simultaneously too full and too empty.
There were too many demands on my time and energy but there wasn’t enough time and space for things that brought me joy, fulfillment, and inner peace.
I had checked all the boxes. The job, the house, the family. But something was missing that left me asking: Is this all there is? Is this what I worked so hard for?
This feeling of emptiness drove me to buy (thank you, Amazon Prime) and eat (Halo Top ice cream anyone?) and zone out (I’m looking at you, Facebook). Yet I remained unfulfilled and stuck. It was like trying to live on candy bars: too many empty calories, not enough nutrition.
The Root Cause
After accumulating more stuff and wasting more time, I realized that what I was doing wasn’t working. I would need to try a different approach.
Determined to find something that would actually work, I tried a lot of things that didn’t. Finally, I figured out what was really happening.
My overstretched schedule was the direct result of trying to live up to external demands. I was measuring my life against a fictional version of what life is “supposed to” look like as a “Perfect Mother,” “Good Wife,” or “Tireless Advocate.”
On the other hand, the feeling of emptiness came from ignoring my internal needs and desires. It came from not doing what brought me joy, restored my energy, and made me feel fully human (rather than part robot).
The Remedy
The remedy for this is simple: Defining and living your purpose. And doing less of everything else.
Purpose connected me to something larger than myself. It gave me a true north, a compass for my life.
Once I determined that my purpose was to help other Lawyer Moms become happier in their lives and careers while also being present, loving, and creative in my own life, everything else fell into place.
I began to life a life of my own design, rather than what everyone else thought my life should look like.
I determined what belonged in my life and what didn’t.
It allowed me to be enriched by my life, rather than drained by it.
You deserve more than emptiness.
No one teaches us to do this in school. Employers don’t teach this is training programs. It’s something that we have to ourselves. To make the conscious decision to stop what’s not working and try something new.
If you’re feeling like your life is both too full and too empty, I can help. Send an email to contact@happylawmom.com with 3 days/times that work for you and we’ll get back to you within 24 hours to set up a time for a free Breakthrough Call to help you determine what needs to change in your life for you to create lasting fulfillment.
Lawyer Moms have said these calls are “amazing,” “brilliant,” and “life changing.” I’d love to show you how you can have more of what you want and less of what you don’t.