As much as we wish that people would always be kind, polite, and act in alignment with our own morals and values, the truth is that they don’t. Sometimes bosses or co-workers say things that we consider to be rude. Sometimes people cut us off in traffic. Sometimes people even lie, cheat, or steal. Regardless…
Mondays are a great litmus test to determine if something is not working in your life and career. If it’s Sunday evening and you think about the week ahead and feel energized, that’s a good indicator that you’re thriving. But if you think about Monday and feel dread, overwhelm, or a pit in your stomach,…
There is one thing that I see almost every day that holds people back from taking action toward what they want is the fear of making a huge mistake. We all do this at some point. Our brains tell us that the only way to change is to make a big leap that we might regret….
When I practiced law as a litigator, I spent months–and in some cases years–going through evidence to support my clients’ cases at trial. Everybody knows from TV or the movies how this works: the plaintiff or prosecution (depending whether it’s a civil or criminal case) presents its case before the judge or jury and then…
You’re creating your future by what you do today, whether you realize it or not. That’s because your future is created both by what you do or by what you don’t do. Declining to deliberately create your future is a decision to create your future by default. It’s an invitation for more of the same or to…
When we’re uncertain of what do next, we have two options. The first (and by far the most common) is to say, either to yourself or somebody else, “I don’t know what to do.” The second is to say “I can figure this out.” Which do you think produces better results? When we tell ourselves…
We all want more time in our lives. Most of know that planning is a great tool to help us be more productive and efficient, so that we can have more time for what we want. But most of us don’t plan as much as we could. That’s because there’s an important rule to planning that most of…
The one question that I hear the most from clients is this: “How do I know whether I’m on the right path for me?” The problem with this question is that it presupposes that there is a singular “right” path for all of us and all other ways are somehow “wrong” for us. That presupposition…
In his excellent book entitled Essentialism, Greg McKeown advocates for simplifying our lives and our days down to the very essential. He defines being an essentialist as someone who consciously chooses to do only what is most important to him or her and says no to everything else. Of course, in order to do that, you have…
You have two selves inside of you. We all do. Each of us has a self that is curious, creative, full of wonder, inspired by possibility, and that seeks fulfillment, meaning, purpose, and joy. And then we have another self that just wants to keep us alive. It is not concerned with our ultimate fulfillment. It is…
