Millions are mourning the passing of Ruth Bader Ginsburg.
For many women, particularly Lawyer Moms, her loss feels akin to losing a beloved grandmother or aunt.
She paved the way and then made it easier for us to follow.
She wanted to see other women thriving, pursuing—and achieving—happiness.
RBG fought hard to make the system more equal for women.
And because of her work, we can do ours.
If you’re feeling like RBG’s death is the last straw in a year that’s been full of challenges and strife, you’re not alone.
But letting the current circumstances get you down is not likely to serve you or anyone else.
Here is what I recommend you do instead.
Be Kind to Yourself
When faced with challenging circumstances, what’s required is exquisite self-care.
This doesn’t mean eating a pint of ice cream or drinking a bottle of wine. It means asking yourself what you need that would truly nourish and restore you.
Write down the answers to these questions:
- What do I need right now?
- What does my body need?
- What does my mind need?
- What does my heart need?
- What does my spirit need?
And then give yourself what you need. Kindly, gently, with love and compassion.
Honor Her Legacy by Your Own Pursuit of Happiness
Women in general (and Lawyer Moms in particular) can honor her legacy every day by thriving in their lives and careers.
She worked hard to make sure we had opportunities.
She refused to live by other people’s expectations of her and instead blazed her own path.
For those who want to honor her work, we can do so by pursuing our own happiness at work and as moms.
This does not have to mean working yourself to the bone.
It might even mean stepping back in your practice, if that’s what you want.
The point is that we have the freedom to choose what we want to do and then create it.
Your happiness matters.
Your dreams matter.
It would make RBG proud to see women choosing to thrive and living our very best lives.
We were made for this.