Most of us believe that we have to take action in order to get results so that we can feel how we want to feel. For example, if you want to lose weight, you might think that you need to diet (action) in order to get to your goal weight (result) so that you can feel proud and loving toward yourself (feeling). If you think that sounds logical, you’re not alone. Almost everyone on the planet would agree with you.
A Different Approach With Faster Results
But I want to suggest that a better approach is to first create the feelings that you would feel if you already had the result, and then to use those feelings to drive your actions, which will then help you create your desired result much faster.
Let’s apply this to the weight-loss example I mentioned above. When you start to love yourself and love your body, you start to take the action of taking care of your body, and when you do that, you get your desired result. Using this method, you get to feel the desired feeling (loving and proud) before you get the desired result, which actually helps you get that result faster.
Could you feel highly critical of yourself and still take the actions needed to lose weight and get the same result? Yes and no. You could probably reach your target weight, but it’s not likely to be sustainable. And even when you actually achieve that result, you’re still likely to be critical with yourself. Your brain will move on to other areas to criticize because you haven’t addressed the root cause of the critical feelings in the first place.
What Result Do You Want To Create?
This works for any result that you want to create, including career goals and financial goals. If you want to find a new job because you want to feel more empowered and you think that you need to have a new job (result) before you can be empowered (feeling), it’s going to take you longer to find a job.
If, on the other hand, you decide to proactively create the feeling of empowered for yourself now, then that feeling will drive you to take the action you need to take, like getting outside of your comfort zone and asking for informational interviews, which will allow you to get the new job faster.
How To Create The Feeling First
You may be wondering how to create the feelings you need to propel you to take action. Great question! You do that by deliberately choosing and practicing thoughts that you can believe now that will create those desired feelings.
Here are some examples:
Desired feeling: Self-love
Thought to practice: I am worthy because I’m human
Desired feeling: Confident
Thought to practice: I know that I am capable of figuring things out.
This is very subjective, so if these thoughts don’t create those feelings for you, then write down another thought that does. The most important thing is that the thought has to be believable to you now. Otherwise, your brain will just reject it.
Just Try It
Do me a favor: try this out for a few weeks and see what happens.
Think about a result that you’d love to have.
How would it feel to have that? Pick a one-word emotion that you imagine you’d have if you attained what you want.
What would you need to think and believe to feel that way today, even before you create that result?
Practice generating that feeling by practicing that thought every day and notice what happens. Notice how you show up. Notice what you do. And notice how much it helps to get the result that you really want.
Have a beautiful week!
XO,
Charise
P.S. The blocks that keep us from achieving what we want in our professional lives are often the very same blocks that keep us from achieving the results we want in other areas, such as finances, weight loss or relationships. No matter what result you want to create for your life, I can show you how to create it. If you’re struggling with some area of your life or career, let’s talk and I will help you through your particular issue.